Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Is marriage still sacred?
Last night I watched the much anticipated episode of Jon and Kate plus 8. I prayed so hard that I did not hear the word divorce. Yes, I actually prayed for these people that I do not really know. Once I heard that they were splitting up, I cried. My husband thinks I have completely lost my mind for getting so involved with these "reality shows." The two of them kept saying that they were just putting their kids first and I just find that hard to believe. I mean any kid would say that they would rather have their parents together and in love. I know that in a perfect world there would not be divorce. However, since the fall of man, it is a way of life. They both said multiple times that their kids were the reason for everything and that they were absolutely number one in their lives. I am sorry but that is their first mistake. Your kids should be one of your top priorities but your spouse should always come first. When I was a little girl and we sassed my mother, my dad would say "Don't you talk to MY WIFE like that"! It may sound ugly but we always knew that my dad would always take my moms side over ours in any situation and he was 100% right in doing this. Parents that allow their children to become their whole lives will one day be very sad when those babies grow up and get out on their own. But, you are stuck with that spouse that you have been ignoring all of those years until you die. After all, that is the promise that one makes when they say their wedding vows. Not only to each other but also to God, our Father. My family has certainly been touched by divorce. Both of my brothers have been divorced and it has had so many repercussions with our entire family. I grieved along side them when they both went through this. Children were involve in both circumstances and that is never good. I really don't know what causes divorce. I guess everything from adultery to just plain not getting along. I just wanted to shake both Jon and Kate and say "Don't do this, you can make things right, just forgive each other and love"! I am not foolish enough to believe that my marriage is perfectly safe from these evil snares. I know that it is only by the grace of God that my marriage has survived and is stable. I give all of the glory to my God and praise Him daily for my husband and the fact that he lets God lead us. I know that everyone does not do that and that he is a pastor but let me say that the divorce rate amongst pastors/wives is extremely high. I just pray that God will keep us pure and true and that we only physically, spiritually and emotionally embrace each other as long as we both shall live. I am not judging people that have been through divorce, in fact I am saying that I am so sorry for the heartache that they have endured. If you know someone who is contemplating a decision to divorce then you should get on your knees and cry out to God on their behalf. Actually we should be crying out to God on a regular basis for all of our marriages, good or bad. At any time if we let Satan, he will quickly pounce and break our families apart. I know that I have been on my soap box about this but it has just troubled me and I feel that God has used this show to put marriage on my heart. Let's pray for God to restore the marriage of the Gosselin family and in the meantime, that He will be with those poor children as they adjust to their broken apart family. I am thankful today for the gift of unity in my marriage.